How Secure
Is Your Relationship Foundation?
Now that you know your relationship foundation — here’s what to do next....
A strong relationship doesn’t happen by accident. Whether you’re feeling secure or unsure, this page is your next step toward more connection, clarity, and intimacy.
Practical advice - you can take action on today.
Expert Guidance- Created by an experienced professional
Science backed - Based on the science of lasting love and desire
You’ve already done the most important thing — you’ve taken the first step.
Your quiz result gave you insight into your relationship foundation: how you communicate, how much trust exists, and how supported you feel emotionally and intimately.
And while each result is different, the truth is the same:
Awareness is powerful, but action is where real change begins.
Below, you’ll find tailored insights based on your result — and what I recommend as your best next step.
🔴 If your result was: Weak Foundation
Your relationship feels fragile right now — conflict may escalate quickly, trust feels shaky, and you might feel emotionally unsafe or disconnected.
But this isn’t the end — it’s the beginning of rebuilding.
💡 Tangible actions you can take today:
Practice 1 minute of intentional eye contact each day — it builds nervous system safety.
Use this prompt with your partner (or journal it): “What I need from you, but find hard to ask for, is…”
Focus on repairing after conflict — not avoiding it.
👉 Best next step:
The Relationship Reset is designed to help couples like you create stability before it’s too late. You’ll learn how to communicate safely, reconnect emotionally, and rebuild your foundation — together or solo.
🟠 If your result was: Shaky Foundation
You love each other, but something’s slipping — you may feel more like housemates than lovers, avoid hard conversations, or go through cycles of closeness and distance.
You’re not broken. You’re just stuck in a loop — and it’s totally normal.
💡 What you can do right now:
Carve out 10 mins each day to connect without devices — even a check-in while brushing your teeth together helps.
Use this check-in: “One thing I appreciate about you today is…”
Revisit something you used to enjoy doing together — and try it again.
👉 Best next step:
The Relationship Reset offers a structured way to move from “just coping” to actually enjoying your relationship again. Think of it as tools + conversation starters + guided support — without needing to drag your partner to therapy.
🟢 If your result was: Solid Foundation
You’ve built something strong — there’s trust, a sense of partnership, and emotional safety. That’s something to be proud of. But even strong foundations need tending, especially when life gets busy or passion fades.
💡 How to nurture your connection right now:
Introduce 1 intentional moment of affection per day — a lingering hug, a hand on their back, a soft “I see you.”
Schedule a “connection date” that’s not about logistics or kids.
Journal this: “Where am I holding back emotionally, even though I trust my partner?”
👉 Best next step:
Explore the Connection Course — it’s designed to deepen emotional + physical intimacy and rekindle what brought you together in the first place.
⚖️ If your result was: Mixed / Uncertain Foundation
Your relationship has both strong and shaky elements. Some days, it works beautifully — other days, not so much. This push-pull often reflects different communication styles, mismatched intimacy needs, or unspoken fears.
💡 What you can do right now:
Begin a “safe talk” ritual once per week: set a timer for 5 mins each to share honestly — no advice, no fixing.
Try the prompt: “I feel closest to you when…”
Reflect on this: “If I fully trusted this relationship, what would I do differently?”
👉 Best next step:
The Pre-Therapy Activation will help you and your partner uncover the patterns underneath your inconsistencies — and give you the tools to turn uncertainty into clarity and connection.
COUPLES THERAPIST & SEXOLOGIST
Hi, I'm Isiah McKimmie
For the past 15 years, I've been helping couples to reconnect, reignite desire and feel like a team again.
As one of the most qualified and experienced sex and relationship experts in Australia, I've built my reputation on getting my clients results.
Master’s Degree in Relational Psychotherapy
Master’s Degree in Science of Medicine (Sexual Health / Psychosexual Therapy)
Postgraduate Diploma in Sexology
Extensive advanced training
I want you to know there’s hope.
I’ve helped countless couples work together to have a happy relationship again.
I would love to support you too.
Isiah.xx
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